Hey anon. We ALL have insecurities about ourselves, everyone. Even Bender. But it’s about trying to gain the confidence in yourself to start loving yourself and accepting yourself. Once you’ve done that, you’ll be more confident and sometimes men and women find a confident woman very attractive. What are the reasons you feel inadequate? Is there anyone around you who is being a negative influence, or was there in the past? If there is you probably wanna start backing away from those dudes. I find a lot of PMA (positive mental attitude) is a massive tool in every day life and that can help with the way you feel about yourself and your outlook on yourself. Instead of being like, i dunno uh, “Oh i hate the shape of my nose, why can’t i have a nice nose? Why can’t i be beautiful like that girl on the red carpet.” change that thought to, “But i DO have beautiful eyes and i have the most gorgeous dress that would make me EQUALLY as gorgeous as those women on the red carpet.” There are both positive and negative aspects to most situations. We get to choose which ones to focus on. You gotta catch yourself when you’re being negative and try thinking the opposite - the positive. It can be stressful being with other people, even people that we really like - so don’t be scared of taking some time out for yourself and enjoy being with yourself. Do things you enjoy doing, whether it be reading, listening to music, painting, jogging, swimming, watching movies etc. Be kind, positive, be true to yourself, trust yourself, encourage your own dreams, grow spiritually, look after your body, try and see the beauty in everything then you can start appreciating the beauty in yourself etc. To help boost your self confidence find something or seek opportunities to help improve your self confidence. If you know you’re good at something, do more of it, it’ll be a self esteem boost. Use your mental Photoshopping skills, and work on your self-image. If it’s not a very good one, change it. Figure out why you see yourself that way, and find a way to fix it. It is a fact that when you start dressing nicely, dressing yourself in things you love, you’ll feel good about yourself. SMILE. Always smile.
It’s easier to bring change if you just put your mind to it and change your thoughts. We can’t always control things that happen in our lives, but we can, with some effort, control what we think. And this is how you start. What about these women is it that you find attractive, and how can you carry it over to YOU. If you like the way their hair is, see if it’ll work on you. You’ll get it done and you’ll think, ayy my hair looks cool today. AND THAT’S THE START. But don’t ever compare yourself to others. REMEMBER, people on red carpets, these privileged ladies that attend these events have stylists, they are able to shop in new expensive fashion, often given clothes and not to mention will be photoshopped to hell and back.
Maybe anon, invest in a couple books? How to accept yourself books and read lots of Gautama Buddah quotes? The fact you’re asking me shows you’re already looking for inspiration and actively trying to find ways to stay positive about yourself, so that’s awesome. But god, you don’t want to rule your life on whether Benedict bloody Cumberbatch, this one man, will find you attractive. Who fucking cares what he thinks? He isn’t the be all and end all, he’s just an ordinary bloke who i can tell has a great life and well being about him. He’s likely to, as i’ve listed above, find beauty in every thing. He has mentioned before about Buddhism, so he’s probably a vaguely spiritual guy. I don’t know the extent of it, but It’s insulting to him i would guess, why wouldn’t he find you a beautiful person? Anyway, it really is what YOU think.
Don’t give up on yourself, you are worthy, you are beautiful, you have a heart and a soul and you are unique.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
― Gautama Buddha
Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting.William Shakespeare, Henry V.
(i don’t know if this was what you were after but never mind. Just. Please. Don’t. Rule. Your. Life. On. That. Mother. Fucker. Above. There are more things to life than him - don’t put him on such a high pedestal… It isn’t healthy, okay?)
More people need to read this. I’ve loved this girl since I saw her on Graham Norton.
Very very important, girls. And boys, you can read this too.
I am asking for your help and I hate to do it but its a matter of life or death of a beloved animal who has done nothing wrong.
My town has very strict policies for pitbulls along with other “bully” breeds. The breed bias is unfair and has been fought against for…
They’re both convinced
that a sudden passion joined them.
Such certainty is beautiful
but uncertainty is more beautiful still.
Since they’d never met before, they’re sure
that there’d been nothing between them.
But what’s the word from the streets, staircases, hallways –
perhaps they’ve passed…
I am an optimist. I choose to be. There is a lot of darkness in our world, there is a lot of pain and you can either choose to see that or you can choose to see the joy. If you try to respond positively to the world, you’ll spend your time better.
I needed to hear this right now. I’m still sad but I know what to think.